Supergirl: Stop Calling Mon-El Abusive!

  Okay I understand why Kara broke up with Mon-El and I respect her for it (even though I disagree full heartedly) but what I don't understand are people calling Mon-El abusive or the Karamel ship toxic. Sure Mon-El lied to Kara about his identity but his fears were understandable. It just burns me up that people would say such things! If you don't like Mon-El that's fine but calling him abusive is a step too far! Here's the criteria for what classifies as an abusive relationship:

Kara is Supergirl. She doesn't let anyone push her around

1. tell you they cannot live without you (*Nope)

2. blame you for all their problems (*Hell no)

3. break or hit things to intimidate you (*Pffth as if)

4. threaten to hurt themselves or others if you break up (*No)

5. act jealous, say jealous things, or forbid you to speak with certain people (*There are healthy displays of jealousy. Only when it's constant is it alarming. Mon-El was jealous of Myxy but didn't forbid Kara from speaking to him and he hasn't shown jealousy since)

6. pressure you into having sex or force you to do sexual things you don't want to do by saying, "if you really loved me you would..." (*God no)

7. humiliate you and belittle your opinions (*Mon-El disagrees with Kara but he doesn't belittle her opinion)

8. slap or shove you in a seemingly playful way, but it happens often and doesn't seem right (*Kara could throw Mon-El through a wall. The first time he caught her by surprise and he just woke up from a coma so I'd react like that too)

9. seem jealous and possessive about the time you spend with your friends (*No)

10. constantly check up on you and ask where you are and what you are doing (*Mon-El gives Kara plenty of space)

She was about to fall so of course he catches her
like anyone with manners would

11. have severe mood swings or frequent bad moods (*He's happy a lot of the time)

12. want you to limit your other activities so you can spend more time together (*Mon-El bows to Kara's schedule and doesn't push)

13. want your relationship to get too serious too quickly and refuse to take "no" for an answer (*Nope)

14. blame past bad relationships on everything or everybody else instead of accepting any of the responsibility (*Mon-El takes full responsibility for being a womanizing jerk)

15. abuses drugs or alcohol and pressure you to take them also, even if you don't want to (*No)

16. believe men should be in control and women should do what they're told (*Mon-El believed that most women were damsels in distress but he learned that women are capable of handling themselves.)

17. treat you like property rather than a person they value (*Hell no!)

Look at the tenderness between them

    You know who does fit the 17 criteria? Bella and Edward from Twilight. And for those who love 50 Shades of Grey (*gag*) Christian and Anastasia also meet that criteria because the book started out as Twilight fan fiction! Kara dumped Mon-El but he still stayed on Earth because together or not Supergirl inspires him to be a better person and he wants to continue working with her. You can go ahead and celebrate that Mon-El and Kara are over but don't cite a reason for the break up as Mon-El being abusive or controlling. Kara is too smart and too much self esteem to get into that kind of relationship and it's an insult to her character for someone to suggest such a thing. Kara is not only a strong super hero she's a strong young woman. Give her more credit, will ya?